Happy Ever After

A girl who dreams for a prince that is able to sweep her off her feet & desire for an adventure of a lifetime together. A girl that finds security in her guy because her knight & shining armour is able to protect her & she is able to confide in him. A guy that makes her feel as if she is the most beautiful gal, not because she is beautiful compared to all the other gals around but because he set his eyes on her, only on her because he chose to.

These fairy tales brings warmth to my heart. A desire to be with a person... that loves me & I love him too. Often, when we watch this fairy tale on screen, we do not see the problems between the the couple... the disagreements, the "can't stand with each other's bad habit", the "i'm want to do my own thing" or "i'm can't always be with you" factor... heheh how ironic?

I've been swept off my feet many times, thought that the person is the ONE. Well, it's simply 'cause I fall in love easily *that's dangerous, don't ya think?* You see, movies they don't really talk about the importance of commitment. It's all about the 'head over heels' feeling. That's why LOVE seems so easy for everyone. They just gotta feel it, and *BOOM*, you're already there.

If feelings are not constant/steady, how is it that LOVE is erverlasting? What happens if there is no commitment? You move from one person to another & another & another... till you get tired of it? That's why break-up/divorce rates are so high. They didn't add in the element of commitment.

Some may say, if you don't have feelings for the person, why marry him? Let's look into arranged marriage. They still stick with each other thru thick & thin... and are able to learn to love one another that started out just from a commiment. They didn't start off with feelings. So, how did they do it?

What is LOVE? Of course, I don't deny that if you wanna have the goofy smile on ya, the butterflies in the stomach, the happy thoughts with ya partner, you'll need to feel for the other person-la. It is an important element to boost up our happiness, being with the person, the nice feeling. But do realize that it comes & go. Sometimes, for all you know, you are so fed up with the person.. you get bored of him & her. Hey! it happens, when you get to know a person your whole life. Go ahead & try it!

Also, the element of companionship. Knowing that you've been with the person so long... understanding the person enough... You don't have to say a word to be with the person. Being there with the person is already enough. Silence that states a thousand words (erm, does this make sense?) Yeah.. that satisfaction, knowing that he or she is there...

Hmmm.... Man, I hope that one day, I really understand what it meant to really LOVE someone. Knowing all this cognitively is harder than putting it into action... especially the commitment part. It's like... "do you, Lizzie Hie, take this person as your wedded husband, to love, to honor, to cherish now & evermore?" Of course, I would love to scream out "Yesssss!!!! I do!!!!!"... but thinking about being with the person 24/7 when you can't even stand the person at times now, unable to feel happy with the person at times & you don't understand anything about commitment... It freaks you out!!!

Anyway, I am 19 years old. Why do I need to be so desperately in love with someone in this age? Well, other than the pressures around me... and the subtle temptations whispering into my ears, saying "Liz, go now, before you lose your chance.. Why not have him now rather than have to wait?" Guess what? Love is a CHOICE. You choose to want to be with the person & love the person. That enhances the feelings, & it's the core of commitment & creates companionship with the person.

So, does it really matter if I have lost my chance? After all, it's a choice. You want to still love the person, even if you lose the person, or you wanna go on with your life, looking for other fishes in the sea? Of course, something would be pulling you back & it seems so so so hard to let go... but you gotta learn to put your foot down & make a choice.

I choice to love the person & to be loved by the person.

You still can have your fairy tale, by the way. It's just how you percieve your life with your partner. "Happy Ever After" does exist.. Even if you don't get the guy or girl of your dreams... or you stick to be single because your girl was married off to another... It still can happen to you.